Heartbreak is in the air

Heartbreak is in the air recently.

A lot of people have asked for advice on a similar topic so I thought I would write it out.

It's also playing in my mind over and over as unfortunately as many of you know a broken heart doesn't heal overnight.

Regardless on how long the relationship was, or even if it was a relationship officially, this person was a big part of your life and you're grieving that loss.

That is normal.

It is not the same as someone dying please for the love of god do not compare it to that because a loved one dying is a whole different level of pain.

This however still hurts like hell.

What is hard is when there wasn't really anything you lost, but you imagined what a future with them would be, you felt safe enough to let them in that part of your mind so you're actually grieving the loss of what could have been.

What you have had.

This is where you start to feel crazy, over thinking, over analysing because why on earth do you miss something that wasn't even truly your in the first place.

To anyone who has recently ended things with someone and then wonders why they seem so hurt- that is why.

They had to erase you the picture of their future and whilst they used to daydream scenarios of what could have been they have to now forget these unlived memories.

They are not necessarily annoyed at you but annoyed at themselves for letting you into that picture.

That is why I always advice people to not plan your future around another person because if they leave it's going to be so much harder.

Plan the future for you- noone else.

Now comes the tough love part.

If someone wants to be with you, they will be with you.

It's that simple, no if's no but's, they will make it happen.

If they are ignoring you- they don't want you.

If they don't want to see you- they don't want you.

None of this "Maybe they don't have time" because if they want you they will make time.

So do not waste yours waiting for a dream that will never come true.

You were happy before them and you can be happy without them, don't let them be the soul reason for your happiness.

The right person will come along in time but it isn't something you can force or rush, it just happens.

I know it hurts and I know how unwanted you feel right now.

Build your confidence back up, find yourself again and let someone fall in love with who you are not who you are with someone.

Be your own person because you are amazing but don't waste your time with someone who can't see that.

Everything will be fine.

Blog love.